Sunday, September 26, 2010

But…Do You Feel You’re Missing Out by Not Going to Homecoming?

It was all over Facebook this weekend. Homecoming.

So…I asked Becca if she felt that she was missing out. (This does concern me. I mean, if I saw all the posts, then I know SHE saw them too. And I was truly concerned. WAS she missing out on all the fun?)

And she said, “Psh…no!” (But with much more attitude than I can convey here…)

She has no desire to be involved with Homecoming. Courts and dresses and dances and what she calls, “high school politics.”

That’s not to say that she doesn’t enjoy the homeschool dances that are held on a regular basis (formal and informal). She does!

But…it’s different.

How, you ask?

It’s just less stress…and pressure…and the feeling that you need to keep up (or measure up). And the “popularity” aspect of it of it all.

Not that we’re knocking the idea of Homecoming. We’re most definitely not! (Please see my other blogs re: our “live and let live” philosophy.) We’re glad that our teen friends enjoyed their dances (and Homecoming festivities)!

It’s a “to each their own” thing, really. Homecoming is just not Becca.

And if she ever does feel like she’s missing out? Well, then, she always has the option of going back to public school. (Right now, it’s not even a possibility that she entertains. And that's OK.)


  1. Hey Linda and 'becca (and Bob!),
    Just saw a similar post, the writer is a 2nd generation homeschooler and she had some interesting points, much like yours but also the "looking back on it all perspective"!

    hugs to you all,
    MaryC in KY

  2. I think I hate this questions above all others. It's so demeaning.

    I was in public school and I didn't go to homecoming OR prom. And I could have - I was dating Tom. But I saw it for what it was (even back then).

    How can people think homeschoolers are missing something because they skip that experience?

  3. Wow, thanks for the link, Mary! I will definitely check it out!!!

    Hugs right back at you!!! <3

    ~ Linda

  4. I didn't go to Homecoming either, Carolyn, and I really didn't miss it! I did go to Prom, and though it was fun, it wasn't the "end-all, be-all!" ;o)

    Becca doesn't feel like she's missing out on anything, and that's the most important thing. I'm so thankful for the opportunities that we have as homeschoolers. It's more Becca's "style!"

    Thanks for sharing your perspective!!! <3

    ~ Linda

  5. Linda,
    Love the Blog! Just wanted you to know that one of my girls (That is in private school for those of you that don't know me) Stays home from dances because she finds the behavior of the other kids "offensive".
    So ...anyone that really feels they are missing something...well you aren't really.
    <3 Leslie

  6. Thanks, Leslie. And it's good to hear from everyone! Again, I don't think it necessarily has to do with homeschool/public school/private school. Sometimes it's just the personality of the child! ;o)